About

Hi!

My name is Amberlee, and I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of over a year now. The majority of our relationship has been long distance, and let me tell you, it is no easy task. So I decided to create a blog to help other long distance couples cope with their relationships. My hope is that this site will provide resources that will make the process of a long distance relationship a little bit easier and seem like less of a challenge. It really is all about having the right mindset and finding ways to make it work. 

To start, I'd like to share my story:

When I was a sophomore, young and distracted, Jim was a senior. The first time I ever remember seeing him was in my 2nd period history class. He was the TA, seated at the front, next to the teacher, and I was a student, quiet and seated all the way in the back. Apart from bringing him my tests to pile up and put in numbered order a few times, and having him hand back papers every once in a while, I never really dealt with Jim. That year he ended up having a girlfriend and I ended up having a boyfriend. We both dated those people for about 2 1/2 years.

Fast forward to my senior year. My friend who I had grown distant with since sophomore year, needed a date for the Sadie Hawkins’ Dance. I of course, was not going. I heard who she was going with, but I had no clue that it was the same guy who had been our TA just a few years before. They went, but nothing came of it, neither one had feelings for the other, it was just a friendly thing.

Now, jump ahead to the summer after I graduated high school. My boyfriend broke up with me a week after graduation, and I was a mess. But I get this friend request, followed by a message explaining that this guy, Jim, had seen my name and picture on the “People you may know” list and remembered me from back when he was the TA for my history class a few years ago. I added him, and we began to trade short messages back and forth, though I had no interest in him whatsoever. Over the next few months however, we became friends, and eventually exchanged phone numbers and started texting.

In October I dated a longtime friend and ex-almost-boyfriend. That turned out to be a mistake and ended by November. Once again, my heart was broken. Jim meanwhile, had flirted around all summer, attempting to find a companion, and ease his heartache, and had been on a few dates while I was less inclined to text him. We kept in touch though. By the end of November, I found myself caught between Jim, who seemed like prince charming, and this bad boy who I had been denying my feelings for, for years. Things happened, Jim and I ended up going on a few dates; Christmas in the park and ice skating, the movies, dinner with friends, etc. But no matter how hard I tried, I didn’t feel a connection with him. Everything with us was beyond awkward. I knew he was the best thing for me, but it just didn’t seem to be working and the last thing I wanted to do was hurt him.

I ended up dating the other guy for about a month, until he got me into some trouble and chose his bad life over me. I was once again, a complete mess. Not only was I heartbroken, hurt, and mad at myself for believing in this guy, but I was so upset that I had let this amazing other guy go. I felt so stupid and hopeless. All I could do now was pick myself up slowly and try to move forward.

But guess who was there? Jim. Always Jim. He had been keeping an eye on my Facebook posts, texting me to make sure I was alright, still thinking about me. And if I had been honest with myself and slowed down for more than just a couple of seconds, I would have noticed that I had been thinking about him too. I sorted some of my issues out, and by March Jim and I were texting like real friends again. I was about to pick up my very first paycheck with my girlfriend, and something in me told me to text Jim. So I did, and found out that he had to pick up his paycheck too. So I told him that we were already at the mall and that he should come get it now so we could say hi since it had been a while. Luckily, he did. It was a bit awkward at first, but something was different. My friend ended up inviting him to go eat with me and her boyfriend without even asking me, and I was like, “uhh, okay..” but what totally tripped me out was when I went to pull out of the parking lot, I put the car in drive to back out, instead of reverse. Something I only do when I’m nervous. But this was the good kind of nervous. My friend was so happy, she wanted me to end up with this guy, she knew he was good for me too. Jim ended up paying for my food, and we all ended up hanging out at my friend’s boyfriend’s house until 3am watching movies, baking cookies, laughing, eating, and messing around. I liked him. I really, really liked him. I couldn’t believe it. And that stormy night, was the beginning of a month of flirting, and the beginning of the most amazing, healthiest, happiest relationship I have ever been in.